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There is an increasing trend for mediation between married couples who are about to split up. This is particularly the case for couples with children.
The children almost always want their parents to stay together. An upbringing filled with one’s parent’s constant bickering and hatred is unlikely to prove a good basis for life, and with partners often finding new love, the chances of a happy and stable childhood are increased.
The idea of ‘serial monogamy’, implying several consecutive long-term relationships, is today the reality, with extended and inter-related family groups that often include step-children.
However, divorce usually hurts the member who has not initiated proceedings, and some individuals call on the counsellor for help and advice.
Divorce is the natural result of the growing financial independence of women. While women were unable to work, and the state’s support was limited, females had little choice but to put up with a bad marriage. Now that is no longer the case, and many divorces are initiated by women.
The counsellor’s job is to find out how the individual feels about the marriage. If one partner is determined to separate, there is little point in trying to ‘save’ the relationship.
